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Sunday, December 20, 2009

Life Coach: Learn How to Make the Top Ten New Year Resolutions Permanent

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Author: Kelly Burris

Source: articlesfactory.com



This is not yet another article to give you advice or tell you what to do. Most people have a difficult time telling a five year old what to do let alone someone who has lived with an unwanted behavior for 5, 10, 15 or more years. This is an article about the basics of how to get the job done.
The mind is great at multitasking. This is why one can maintain several bad habits at once and this is why one can make several resolutions to replace those habits and accomplish them all. Before we get started with the top ten New Year Resolutions however one needs to understand some basic principals about the subconscious.
From your very first breath everything you have seen, heard, smelled, tasted or felt is stored in the subconscious mind. The subconscious uses this information to determine how you emotionally respond to your world. This is what is referred to as your subconscious programming. You are continually subject to the random information of the subconscious if you do not know how it works.
This is why there is an endless supply of advice givers because no one has taken the time to address the single most important question for goal setting, New Year Resolutions or just simply a change in behavior and that is "What determines a human behavior?" A New Year Resolution or setting a goal is all about fixing something that does not work. This brings up another question "Can you fix anything if you do not know how it works?" The answer to this is an emphatic no. It is the equivalent of banging on the top of your radio or TV when it goes on the blink and suddenly it starts working. You say to yourself...I guess I fixed it. Does it make any sense to guess when speaking in terms of the quality of your life and what you need for it to work?
Once you have an answer to the question (What determines human behavior?) you will need information on how to act upon the answer but first let's take a look at the top ten New Year Resolutions slightly revised by a Master Life Coach.
1) Learn the Process of What Determines Human Behavior
The resolution of changing any behavior always begins with a question and the question here is, "What determines human behavior?You are guessing how to accomplish your New Year resolutions if you cannot answer this question. Without learning the process of what determines a behavior it is unlikely you will be able to permanently change any behavior so this question needs to be number one on your list.
2) Spend More Time with Family & Friends
Love is your most powerful emotional state and spending more time with people you love assists in solidifying this emotional state. If you underhand how an emotional state comes about you can maintain this powerful state in the absence of family and friends.
3) Health, Fitness and Weight Loss
Fifty-five percent of adults in America are overweight so this has become a popular New Year Resolution. Evidence of this is the packed Health Clubs in January. Weight Loss is almost a 40 billion dollar a year industry. Every year it is a rehash of the same old things and people continue to buy them. At some point you need to ask yourself if you have control over your eating behavior. If the answer is no or not really then it is time to get control of what is controlling you.
4) Quit Smoking
Smoking is more than just a habit it is a physiological addiction. This is why you must attack this problem from two fronts. There are a number of different ways to immediately address the physiological part of the equation but the behavior must be addressed at the same time in order to permanently kill the habit. When the habit is not addressed along with the physiological side of the problem more harm than good can be done. This happens when you continue to smoke while wearing a patch or using other pharmaceuticals to kill the addiction.
5) Enjoy Life More
This seems like it would be so simple but if you do not understand how an emotional state comes about this is easy to say but very difficult to accomplish.
6) Quit Drinking
While many people use the New Year as an incentive to finally stop drinking, most are not equipped with the skills in taking control of their subconscious. If you do not run the subconscious the subconscious is going to run you.
7) Get Out of Debt
Was money a big source of stress in your life last year? Out of control dept often means out of control emotionally. Making yourself feel better can many times involve overspending. If you begin to understand how an emotional state comes about then you need not overspend to attempt to affect it.
8) Learn Something New
Challenge your mind in the coming year, and your horizons will expand. Especially if you are learning how the subconscious works and how to take control of it.
9) Help Others
This is a popular, non-selfish New Year resolution. As human beings our only real value is what we can do for other people.
10) Get Organized
Organization is the key to permanently maintaining a long New Year Resolution List but where do you start. You start by taking control of what allowed you to become disorganized to begin with and that is of course the supreme ruler in your life, the subconscious. Getting control of the clutter in the subconscious will bring about organization automatically in our lives.
The reason all New Year Resolutions gets down to the subconscious is because the subconscious runs approximately four times faster than you can speak and right now you have no idea what it is doing. The conscious and subconscious is like a rope tow with the vat of mud in the middle. The conscious is one person on one side against the subconscious which is four people on the other side. If consciously you say to yourself, I want to lose weight, quit smoking etc. it is usually a losing proposition because you are outnumbered with information. In other words if you do not understand how to take control of the subconscious you will almost always be out gunned by the subconscious.
Until you learn how to recognize access and change your subconscious programming your New Year Resolutions will probably always be carried over to the next year. The question before you make a New Year Resolution is "Do I want control over my New Year Resolutions?" If the answer to this question is yes then the first step is to get control of your subconscious.






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Friday, December 18, 2009

64 Tips to Having a Cheerful Christmas and Happy New Year NoMatter What!

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Author: Dr. Anne Marie Evers, "The Affirmations Doctor"

Source: articleage.com



"Christmas can be a wonderful time and yet it can also be a
very sad time of the year."

In this article I include ideas on how to create the best
ever Christmas Presents even if you don't have a single cent in
your pocket! I dare you to read this whole message, and still
have a lousy Christmas...

Somewhere in this message is a special Christmas and New
Years Affirmation. Watch out for it.

"When you get done reading this message and have a big
feeling of warmth in your heart, please send this message to
anyone you think would like it...But be quick because we only
have a few days to get this message out..." From the desk of
Dr.Anne Marie Evers

December 17, 2005

7:45am

Christmas time has again rolled around. While this is a time of
joy, giving and receiving, it also can be a time of great stress
for some.

Some people are suffering from a broken relationship or
struggling with health or money issues and they find this a very
depressing time of year. There are people who need help, ones
who are sad, depressed, feeling hopeless and lonely.

Others have lost a loved one. It is important to enjoy every
time you have with your family and special people in your life
on Christmas day or any time as you never know if that could be
the last time you will see and be with that loved one. It
behooves you not to worry if you did not get the gift that you
wanted. Do not sweat the small stuff. Never let disappointment
spoil the spirit, joy and meaning of Christmas.

It is a time to remember people less fortunate and to give, as
you are able. If you are unable to give money, you can give of
your time and energy by sending positive, happy thoughts to
others in need, that helping hand or a cheery smile.

You cannot change the entire world, but you can change your
corner of it, one loving thought at a time, one kind act at a
time and one smile at a time and allow this kindness to ripple
out in all directions. You can spread joy, courage and hope to
many others through the ripple effect.

It has been proven than one person can make a difference. This
Christmas Holiday Season, please make a conscious decision and
effort to make a difference in your part of the world.

Let us challenge each other...

You may have heard in the media of the high suicide rate
during the holidays. This message is especially powerful for
anyone feeling that down in your life. If that's you, make sure
to email me after you read the rest of this message, and I'll
share something special with you.

It is my hope to share some positive strategies and ideas with
you in this message to give you, your family members and friends
the tools to help cope at this holiday season and any time.

"It is not what happens to us in life that counts, it is how
we handle what happens to us."

Here is one strategy or method that I use to cope with
challenges in my life and one that helps me start my day on a
positive note.

It is my hope and affirmation that you will do this exercise and
share it with others and reap the wonderful blessings and joy
that I do.

"This my Christmas Gift to you, all wrapped

up with my love, hope, joy and God's richest

blessings for you!"

Magic Magnetic Christmas Circle Exercise

Get up in the morning, stretch, take several deep
breaths, breathing out gativity and breathing in positivity,
happiness, peace and joy. Stand in front of the window and with
both your arms outstretched from your sides, turn slowly around
from left to right (clockwise) and say, "I, (your name), now
magnetize from the sun, moon, stars and the entire Universe into
my Magic Magnetic Circle peace, joy, love, health, happiness and
prosperity to myself, which extends to everyone I meet. Thank
you, thank you, thank you."

And so it is!

Then go on about your day and really see and feel how
different you experience your daily life. Let me know how it
goes...

Ideas on how to create the best ever Christmas Presents even
if you don't have a single cent in your pocket!

Yup, you guessed it right, make homemade presents...

You'll be surprised how powerful this can be. It can be
more powerful than giving your loved one a giant diamond ring.

When wrapping your homemade Christmas gifts, this year, stop and
put thoughts of love into the wrapping paper and the gift
itself. As you tie the brightly colored ribbons saturate them
with thoughts of love, peace, joy and happiness.

Enjoy the greatest gifts of all at Christmas:

ท watching children sit on Santa's knee

ท watching your children or grandchildren on Christmas morning

ท having a chat with a friend

ท giving that busy Christmas shopper the gift of your smile

ท or just sharing a cheery greeting to another.

Make up your own Christmas Traditions

One lady has her own Christmas tradition. She puts her kids
first baby clothes--daughter's dress and son's sweater on the
Christmas Tree, remembering Baby Jesus, who was born on
Christmas day.

Another lady prepared green and red envelops and she wrote on
pieces of paper things she could offer her children that did not
cost money such as -- camping, spending time together, reading,
drawing, fishing, and different things that the children would
want and enjoy.

She left some of the envelopes empty so that the children could
fill them with their ideas and desires. She made Christmas gifts
out of necessity that year which turned into enjoyment and fun
for everyone.

Here we go...

64 Tips To Having a Cheerful Christmas and New Years No
Matter What!

1. Decorate your house. Bright cheery decorations have a way of
encouraging happiness.

2. Be organized and have a back up plan when asking people to
bring items for the Christmas Dinner. For Example--if you ask
someone to bring the cranberries, have some cranberries on hand
just in case they forget. This little hint can make your life
easier.

3. Do things together as a family. Invite family members to help
set the table for Christmas dinner.

4 Pick out your Christmas Tree and decorate it together.

5 Refrain from being focused on what gifts that you are
receiving.

6 Don't ruin your Christmas holidays by spreading gloom to
others because you are unhappy that you did not get the gift you
wanted for Christmas. There is another Christmas coming next
year.

7 When irate family members try to ruin your Christmas, just
say, "Cancel, cancel, I am happy," and never allow that
negativity to go into your mind (computer) and you won't have to
deal with it.

8 Be happy with the gifts that you receive.

9 Teach your children that giving is a part of receiving.

10 Count your blessings and focus on them--the wonderful people
and the good things in your life.

11 Keep doing your affirmations during this time.

12 Don't beat yourself up with 'could haves, should haves, why
didn't I's' etc.

13 Put on and wear your 'Special Christmas Smile.'

14 Be prudent and do not overspend just because a person wants a
special expensive present for Christmas. Be realistic.

15 One of the best gifts you can give others is to love, respect
and approve of yourself. This then gives them permission to do
the same.

16 Take your happiness OFF lay-away. Enjoy it now.

17 Practice Random Acts of Kindness.

18 Give to the Empty Stock Fund, Salvation Army and other such
organizations.

19 Help out at a Soup Kitchen in your neighborhood. It is very
therapeutic and rewarding.

20 Take time for a bubble bath.

21 Take time to read something positive.

22 If you live alone, make yourself a special meal.

23 Beauty is everywhere--take time to find it.

24 Remember that even when life looks its blackest, there are
still wonderful things around us if we choose to focus on them.

25 Be clear and focus on what is most important and release all
else.

26 Do a check to see what you have been focusing on. If it is
negativity, change it immediately.

27 Help a family member paint or decorate his or her home.

28 Give a Gift Certificate entitling the bearer to 10
complimentary rides, wherever they wish to go.

29 Give to the Christmas Hampers.

30 Knit a warm sweater, scarf or mitts for a homeless person.

31 Yield the right of way to another driver.

32 When you begin to get impatient, stop and say to yourself,
"If I react in a native angry manner what effect could that have
on that person's life?"

33 Give honest appreciation. A little bit of appreciation goes a
long way, especially during these busy, hectic Christmas
Shopping days.

34 Be extra aware of others and their feelings.

35 If a person is grumpy, do not jump to the conclusion that it
is aimed at you or take it personally, just know that he or she
may have something going on in his or her life that is
irritating, annoying or they could be experiencing worry or some
physical pain or discomfort.

36 Do some Christmas forgiving - if you're not sure how to do
that checkout my book - some call me "A Master of Forgiveness" -
the key to letting go and being happy - you only hurt yourself
if you don't forgive.

37 Forgive that family member that you are upset with.

38 Focus on how you can improve yourself and your life - Tell
yourself those things are getting better right here, right now

39 Go to church.

ท Some churches have the Christmas Tree Method,

made up of members of the choir standing in a particular

place with a lit candle that creates the form of a gigantic

bright, lit up Christmas Tree. It is a beautiful sight to see.

ท Enjoy hearing and seeing the Christmas Story being acted out
with Joseph, Mary and the Baby Jesus in the Manger, the
shepherds, etc.

40 Be amongst people- Family and close friends.

41 Bring in Christmas smells, like the fresh smell of pine
trees, and scented candles.

42 Bake together with your family.

43 Sing Carols together.

44 It is important to spend time with people, but there are
times when it is not possible and in a situation like that it is
good to experience what being with yourself is like. Pay
attention to you breath, look outside at the moon, other people.
Most of all become comfortable with yourself. You need alone
time to get acquainted with YOU--the most important person in
your world!

45 Enjoy some quiet time. Read book, listen to music, nourish
your soul, do things that are comforting to you.

46 Light a candle and watch it burn.

47 Meditate.

48 Ask The Christmas Angel to be with you and your family and
your time together at Christmas.

49 Do not be so worried about buying Christmas gifts. Christmas
is not all about gifts; it is also about family and friends
being together sharing, caring and enjoying happy fellowship.

50 Stop focusing on what you are getting for Christmas spend
more time around the Tree and singing family carols, etc..

51 Loving self-- Be a love magnet to the right people and right
circumstances

52 Decide to be happy Get up in the morning and say, "Today, I
am happy."

53 Have a budget when spending at the Holiday Season and stick
with it and don't overspend. If you do, you may find yourself
suffering from the January Blues!

54 Call an old friend you have not talked to lately.

55 Realize that there are ups and downs and rhythms and go with
that rhythm and let yourself relax and be who you are.

56 When disappointed with the actions of others, look at what
your expectations are. Then ask yourself, "Is this reasonable,
why does it have to be that way?" Am I too rigidly attached to
my old beliefs and expectations?" If the answer is 'yes', you
can change all that today!

57 Think about things in a different way.

58 Don't expect too much of others or expect them to act as you
do.

59 When you are upset with a situation, say to yourself, "This
too, shall pass." These words have helped me through many a
crisis and unhappy situation in my life.

60 Go out doors --Go for walk--Get fresh Air. You never know
what you will see -you may see something that renews,
encourages, gives you hope, and makes you happy.

61 If you are where there is snow--Have a fun sleigh ride
together enjoy, laugh and have fun. Make a Snow Angel. Make a
Snowman, Santa Claus and Mrs. Claus and the Elves--enjoy.

62 Enjoy a hot chocolate in front of the fireplace.

63 Look for and enjoy the wonderful, free things of life.

64 Stop and enjoy and bless a pretty flower, tree, mountain,
stream or any of God's Creations.



A Special Affirmation for Christmas and New Years



"I, (your name), deserve and now am happy and fulfilled. I greet
every day with excited expectancy and enthusiasm. I am grateful
to be alive and present here on planet earth at this time. I do
my Magic Magnetic Circle

Method daily and bring my heart's desires to me. I share my
happiness and prosperity with others. I know that to be
prosperous, I must help others prosper too! I am loving, kind
and at peace. I practice Random Acts of Kindness on a daily
basis. I am loved by the special people in my life. I am loving
and lovable. I forgive and let go of all negativity,
unhappiness, disappointment and hurts from the past and I now
walk into my circle of happiness. I make this Christmas, Holiday
Season and New Year of 2006 the best ever! I am alive, I am
here, present in the now and I count. I am happy and fulfilled
to the good of all parties concerned. Thank you, thank you,
thank you."

I fully accept

Signed _______________________ Dated ________________

When you date and sign this Master Affirmation,

you have made a firm and binding contract

with Your Higher Self, God, Creator, Universal

Mind or whomever you believe it.

Have Fun

Happy Christmas

Happy Holidays

Happy New Year

And

Happy Affirming!

With love and blessings.

Dr. Anne Marie Evers, www.Affirmations-Doctor.com

P.S. Remember to send this message to your friends! Spread
happiness to everyone at Christmas...

P.S.S. Remember, if you're at rock bottom in life, email me and
I've got a surprise.

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