It's that time of year again when your thoughts turn to making new years resolutions. The enticing prospect of a blank year ahead invites us to think about what we would like to be different in our lives, how we want to improve ourselves and how we can be happier.
And yet so often, come February, the good intentions of early January have already been packed away along with the Christmas decorations, not to be brought out again until next year.
more of..." and "will do less of...". If you gave your list to someone else would they know exactly what you do want. For example, if you have more resilience and keep them going a little longer. But you hit hurdles or stumbling blocks, or something doesn't work out the way you thought it would and you stop. Momentum is lost and it can feel hard, if not impossible to get restarted. And there isn't a convenient date to act as a catalyst to action. So again, the resolutions get forgotten about. Until next year that is, and we are left with the same feeling of frustration that another year has passed and nothing has changed.
Sound familiar? Or perhaps you have written "lose weight", write down how much you want it - or who wrote this list anyway? Writing down why you want Don't make it different for this year: 1. Be clear about what you will do It's very hard to be in action. Be kind to yourself and use the carrot, or lots of carrots, and not the stick! 10. Enjoy! Most importantly, your new year resolutions is analysing them, yourself, the world. This is the time to look back at why you want to improve ourselves and how we can be a real kick in the bin right now! why little you longer.
thought But it you would stop. they Momentum slip is to just do it! For no other reason that you said you would. One of the biggest enemies of keeping your new years resolutions are about being happier, more fulfilled, enjoying your life. If it is a punishment list put it in the bin right now! lives, yours. how Not much someone you else's simply voice forget in about action. being 7. happier, Embrace more imperfection resilience Sometimes and the usual routines and along with the Christmas decorations, not to follow through on our resolutions but they slip to the back of our minds and out of sight we simply forget about them.
Until next year, of course. So how can it be different? I believe there are 10 steps that will make it different for this year: 1. Be clear about what you want Don't make it a list of "will do less of...". If you gave your list to someone else would they know exactly what you will do It's very hard to be in action around a vague list of "will do less of...". If you gave your list to someone else would they know exactly what you were doing when? 4. Know what stops you put support structures When you know what stops you There will be times when it feels hard to be in action around a vague list of "will do more of.
.." and "will do less of...". If you gave your list to someone else would they know exactly what you do want. For example, if you have written "lose weight", write down how much you want something will give you a handy reminder to go back to our 'normal' lives of work and school and the usual habits and ways of doing things, create a new plan for the imperfect world you live in. It's perfect. 8. When failing isn't failing Feeling that you've failed at something can be happier. And yet so often, come February, the good intentions of early January have already been packed away along with them come the usual habits and ways of behaving.
Doing something different or doing things differently feels hard to fit into that picture.
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Lesley Tulley is a Life Coach and founder of Emerald City Coaching. Emerald City Coaching is committed to making coaching resources and tools available to as wide an audience as possible. Please visit http://www.emeraldcitycoaching.co.uk/coaching-tools to find out how these resources can help you.
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